In my uni, we had to take 12 units (4 courses) of theology. One theology we had to take was the Theology of Love and Marriage.
In this course, we were introduced to the “definition” of love – pulled out straight from a chapter of the book by M. Scott Peck, M.D., “The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth”.
I got this book as a present for my birthday last year. The chapter we had as a required reading in college left a mark on me, and now reading the whole book was just greatly rewarding.
There is a lot more to this book than just getting deeper into the psychology of love. However, for this post, I’d like to just share 5 of my favorite quotes about love inside this book:
1. I define love thus: The will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth. (This is THE definition.)
- I therefore conclude that the desire to love is not itself love. Love is as love does. Love is an act of will – namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.
The person who truly loves…has made a commitment to be loving whether or not the loving feeling is present. …True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision.
Love is disciplined. ..any genuine lover behaves with self-discipline and any genuinely loving relationship is a disciplined relationship.
Whether it be shallow or not, commitment is the foundation, the bedrock of any genuinely loving relationship.
So, there you have it. Do you agree with these words from Scott Peck?
BOOK RATING: 3.5 out of 5